Living between the Times: a life lesson from Bono

There's probably nothing more gratifying to a preacher to hear that someone actually remembers what you say, teach, or preach. While talking with by best bud late last week, he informed me that one of our (at the time we were both involved in the same ministry) college students spoke to him about distinctly remembering two 'talks' I gave.

One was a 'talk' centered around a U2 song called "Still haven't found what I'm looking for." In the song, Bono claims to know Christ, and to know Christ "carried the cross of my shame....you know I believe it...." However, it feels like there is something more. Perhaps he's missed something?

My point was that those who know "Christ has carried the cross of our shame" still feel like we are missing something. But is not that Christ is insufficient, but that until we get to heaven we experience "groans like in the pains of childbirth (Rom 8:22)"

Everybody groans. All creation, or as R.E.M. put it, "Everybody hurts." Not just Christians.
Life is not all that we would like it to be. We don't experience the full glory and full joy of Christ while here on Earth. Our best life is NOT NOW (contra Joel O.)

However, we have been given the first fruits (first installment of what is to come in the Holy Spirit) even now-says Romans 8:23.

And so about 10 years or so later, Bono wrote a song called "Yahweh." In it he laments, "Why the pain before the child is born?" But now he's come back to Jesus, and has reflected. And so he offers his hands, and his heart BACK to Christ as he did earlier in his career as recorded in "Gloria."

This was supposed to be a blog about somebody remembering what I taught, but it turned into an explication of the joy and difficulty of living between Christ's First and Second Comings. Sorry about that. I guess you get double the info for today.

Neighborhood Cookout: Part IV "Sophomore Dorms"

When I went to Furman University, I lived in Freshmen dorms for the first three years. I did so primarily for ministry purposes. Being a sophomore and junior on a freshmen hall put me in a position to be able to build relationships and eventually share the gospel with young lads and lead bible studies.

But as I look back, I never really felt like a made a sacrifice. After all, at least for my sophomore year, the only alternative was the infamous ‘sophomore’ dorms. In the freshmen dorms, the doors are ALWAYS open. People are constantly coming in and out. They’re new. They don’t already have relationships and are always open and looking.

On the contrary, if you were to walk through the halls of ‘sophomore dorms,’ you’d find doors which were ALWAYS closed. Their relationships have already been formed. They don’t feel any need to keep their doors open to their neighbors.

Some neighborhoods are like freshmen dorms. While their doors are not literally open, their garages are, or they are out in the yards, etc…They are looking for relationships actively or are willing for new folks to come to them.

However most neighborhoods are like sophomore dorms. Garages go up, cars go in, garage doors go down, and people go inside.

So then should we not seek relationships within our sophomoric neighborhoods? No. Building community where there is little or none is a tiresome, prayerful effort. While difficult, it is not impossible. It takes small strides, big prayer, and a little faith. But a little goes a long way. Even when dealing with sophomores (which literally means 'wise fool!')

Neighborhood Cookout: Part III

Our neighborhood cookout was really quite a success. In a small 21 house subdivision, we had participation from 9 different households! I couldn't have been happier.

It all worked out well, and we had tons of food (and good food at that) and were able to actually meet some new people. One of them actually liked to fish, so I look forward to getting out on the kayaks with him some time soon.

There are actually a number of couples in their early 30's with kids on our block now. We'll be among that elite crowd eventually. I can't wait.

All in all, I recommend any such endeavor. Even when our cookouts were not well attended (3-5 households) it was a great way to get to know our immediate neighbors. This was our 4th, and definitely won't be our last. And by the way, we had fun. So that helps as well. If you prayed for us, thanks.

Neighborhood Cookout: Part II

Last night I knocked on a few more doors, and eventually got one more couple to come on Saturday to our cookout. I really think that these neighborhood cookouts (or any neighborhood activity) really honors God.

If we are created for community, than doing anything which builds community, even if there is never the slightest mention of Jesus or church, is a good thing. It honors God as we try to put aside our solitary existences to a more communal and relational way of living. The picture we get of heaven is of great multitudes worshiping; there will be no solitary living. So doing anything which promotes community is really furthering God's Kingdom on Earth (which is essentially bringing what's already present in heaven now, down to earth).

With some there is great excitement. With others there is great inertia. Right now we're at 7-8 households participating. But even if it were just the houses on my cul de sac coming, I still think it would be a good thing. Heaven is not a place on Earth as Belinda Carlysle sang in the 80's. However, she wasn't totally sans truth.

Heaven will one day be a place on Earth (Rev 20), and our participation in Christ's mission brings a little bit of heaven down to Earth. As we live out our faith in the community we've been placed, God's Kingdom/reign/will moves forward. And heaven becomes a little more visible on Earth.

I've lost my cage

Today I'm doing something that I'm really not comfortable with. I'm speaking briefly to a group of about 25 or so folks about taking steps to battle racial prejudice. Doing any sort of speaking outside the pulpit can be quite scary for a pastor.

After all, they've not come into my world (church); I've come into their world. Its kind of like when people get into the water with sharks. They always say, "We're in their world now." Of course those nestling within the confines of a cozy cage, have nothing to worry about (that's why I refuse to watch the "Shark Week" episodes when they're in cages-their not risking anything), but when they step out of the cage-that's when they really risk their lives.

My partner (a fellow black pastor) was kind of my cage. He's not going to make it now, so I'm cageless; I've got nowhere to run to, nowhere to hide-or something like that.

Back to the sharks. Despite the initial fear, and perhaps fear throughout their dives, they always seem to come up excited. Even overwhelmed at the opportunity they just had.

Yet I don't think that only happens while free diving with Great White Sharks. I think it happens any time we truly step out in faith. Along with fear comes great excitement. But that fear often proves too great a hurdle, and we settle for a safe and boring spirituality. However, interestingly enough, neither words are used to describe the Christian life in the bible. I've looked.

Neighborhood cookout: Part I

I'm hosting a neighborhood cookout this Saturday. My neighborhood is a small one, with only about 21 houses in it. Getting people to commit to come has been fairly hard. Some sound interested, others actually disinterested.

As I drove out of my neighborhood yesterday afternoon I passed by several houses which I assumed would simply not come. And it made me very angry. I took that anger with me to work out, and it continued until one of my friends at the gym said he was coming to play Paintball this Saturday.

Then I began to realize that God was doing His work whether I realized it or not. By the time I got home, I had forgotten this, and was angry about all of the households which I assumed would not be coming. Amy reminded me that I had done all that I could in personally passing out flyers door to door, and praying. If its just several houses that come, then that's who God wants to be here. Just one family at a time. Sometimes I want more though.
But I'm thankful for those near neighbors who are coming. And we'll pour ourselves into the relationships God grants us and get to know them better.

Fishing for community

One of the communities I've enjoyed being a part of is the paddle-fishing web forum. Sure there are inside jokes that I don't get, and people can be picky about using certain types of lures (smelly one's that don't take much skill to use), and disdain the use of boats, but I was impressed by the bunch two Saturday's ago for their semi-regular tournament series.

I generally stayed away from any type of web forums, because they are often used as a cyber-community in place of actual human community. But this community was not the case. Most were very friendly, and saw the fishing tournament like I did: a chance to meet some new people, and fellowship with old friends.

It was scary going into a new place and really not knowing many folks at all (I had previously fished with two different lads before), but meeting people was fairly easy. The first question after you meet someone is "What's your screen name?" And then go from there.

Instead of people fishing alone (which was nearly impossible due to the fact there were like 60 kayaks in a small fishable area, and on an extremely low tide-even less water), many folks went off in pairs, some in groups of four-five. Some folks even asked to fish with me because I knew the area better. Of course one of them got the largest snook of the day, and 100 bucks for my guiding skills (I just said let's head south and didn't seem him for a while).

At the end of the tournament everyone went back to the "weigh-in" (just pictures of the fish) at a restaraunt to eat, drink, and of course BS. It just goes to show that people really do crave community. Perhaps even as much as fishing. One of the guys told me, "I'm never fishing alone again." Even if some do fish alone, they immediately post the report with pictures on the forum. It just goes to show that we are created for community. And when people aren't part of a church, they'll just find a replacement.